When you pay for someone’s coffee, or they pay for yours, there is the instinctive need to mirror their actions. And this is suboptimal for all parties involved.
Clearly you've spent cycles thinking about this. I just do whichever happens first. If I go first, I anyway order a coffee and sit. If we go together, I offer to get it for both but if the other person offers over it, I just cave. Also, I feel no obligation to match the coffee or whatever later because I walk around thinking that the conversation itself is interesting / entertaining / fun in itself that it paid for the coffee 😂
Clearly you've spent cycles thinking about this. I just do whichever happens first. If I go first, I anyway order a coffee and sit. If we go together, I offer to get it for both but if the other person offers over it, I just cave. Also, I feel no obligation to match the coffee or whatever later because I walk around thinking that the conversation itself is interesting / entertaining / fun in itself that it paid for the coffee 😂